So, I do a little facebook stalking now and then and sometimes look at Vince's ex's page. Since his son lives with his ex, I just like to see what goes on with them. I'll call her E. So E and her husband live with his mom. They've been living here for a few years, saving up for a house I guess. She recently put up some pictures of a vacation they took to Wisconsin Dells and of the hotel they stayed at. I looked it up and the cheapest room this hotel offers is $200 a night. Why do they splurge on vacations when trying to save for a house? Normally this is none of my business, but Vince pays $84 a week child support. Plus all his tax return money goes to her as well. This year is was over $700. I honestly don't think that this child support goes towards expenses for the child. They live with his mom! What bills do they have? So I asked Vince if he would ever consider giving up his rights to his son. He told me he didn't want to talk about it.
I wouldn't ask this if he was a big part of his son's life, but he's not. He hardly ever sees him. I think the last time he saw him was Logan's bday which was on Feb 24. His son even told Vince that he wasn't his real dad. How can he think that? It's because Vince doesn't see his son. If he's paying child support for a son he never sees why should he contine to be his father? I'm sorry if this sounds harsh, but this is just the way I see it.
First of all- Vince can not- in the state of IL- just give up his rights. Her new husband would have to adopt him for him to be able to do that. I asked a lawyer about it when I was pregnant with Gaige (for obvious reasons).
ReplyDeleteSecond- coming from the other side, you can't know that just because they live with someones parents doesn't mean they don't have bills. Maybe they pay them rent (which is what my BFF does, they live with her MIL), maybe they kick in for groceries. You can't know what they spend their money on for sure. Maybe he got some big bonus at work and they decided to take the kid on vacation this summer. Or maybe someone paid for their hotel room or perhaps they saved up for the trip. You never know really.
Also, had Vince been paying CS to her all those years his tax returns would not go to her. They would go to him. If he didn't have back support to catch up on, he wouldn't have to pay that much in support each week either.
I understand that it's money you guys need right now, but that doesn't make his first born any less entitled to financial support. Ya know what I mean? And, I'm sure that if Vince wanted to be a bigger part of his sons life, he could be. Look at how easy it was for Jake to get to see G (even though he's a douche and stood us up). Vince has RIGHTS to his child, its that simple. He just has to enforce them.